{"id":54878,"date":"2022-07-03T07:08:55","date_gmt":"2022-07-03T05:08:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.fiftyandmemagazine.be\/fr\/?p=54878"},"modified":"2022-06-24T09:17:41","modified_gmt":"2022-06-24T07:17:41","slug":"lhesidating-quand-lavenir-inquiete-les-celibataires","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.fiftyandmemagazine.be\/fr\/bien-etre\/couple\/lhesidating-quand-lavenir-inquiete-les-celibataires","title":{"rendered":"L\u2019hesidating, quand l\u2019avenir inqui\u00e8te les c\u00e9libataires"},"content":{"rendered":"<span class=\"span-reading-time rt-reading-time\" style=\"display: block;\"><span class=\"rt-label rt-prefix\">Reading Time: <\/span> <span class=\"rt-time\"> 2<\/span> <span class=\"rt-label rt-postfix\">minutes<\/span><\/span><p>Qui aurait cru que le Covid allait bouleverser autant notre quotidien\u00a0? Parmi ses effets d\u00e9l\u00e9t\u00e8res, il en est un qui fait couler l\u2019encre depuis deux ans\u00a0: la peur de s\u2019engager durablement en amour. V\u00e9cue par plus d\u2019un <a href=\"https:\/\/www.fiftyandmemagazine.be\/fr\/bien-etre\/couple\/6-conseils-pour-trouver-lamour-a-50-ans\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">c\u00e9libataire<\/a>. Avec la crainte que cette relation ne soit entach\u00e9e, voire bris\u00e9e, par une nouvelle pand\u00e9mie ou tout autre \u00e9v\u00e9nement de m\u00eame ampleur. Un ph\u00e9nom\u00e8ne\u00a0qui porte un nom:<strong> l\u2019hesidating.<\/strong><\/p>\n<h2><strong>L\u2019hesidating, de quoi s\u2019agit-il\u00a0?<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>Mot invent\u00e9 par le site de rencontres en ligne Plenty of fish (POF), l\u2019hesidating (contraction du verbe to hesitate et du mot dating) incarne cette incertitude qui touche de plus en plus de c\u00e9libataires depuis les ann\u00e9es Covid. Un anglicisme que l\u2019on peut d\u00e9finir comme la peur de s\u2019engager dans une relation sentimentale de longue dur\u00e9e. Par peur de ce qui pourrait survenir et mettre \u00e0 mal cette idylle. Selon le site de rencontres, cette forme d\u2019h\u00e9sitation toucherait quelque 70% des c\u00e9libataires, qualifi\u00e9s d\u2019hesidaters, ou \u00ab\u00a0h\u00e9sitants amoureux\u00a0\u00bb.<\/p>\n<h2><strong>Un ph\u00e9nom\u00e8ne en recrudescence<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>\u00ab\u00a0<em>Pour bon nombre de c\u00e9libataires, fragilis\u00e9s par les longs mois de confinement et de restrictions, cette forme d\u2019h\u00e9sitation, que d\u2019aucuns jugeront fond\u00e9e ou pas, met \u00e0 mal des projets de vie de couple. Qui existaient ou \u00e9taient envisag\u00e9s avant la r\u00e9cente pand\u00e9mie. Avec comme cons\u00e9quence visible, des relations sans lendemains qui se multiplient. Certains pr\u00e9f\u00e8rent en effet profiter de l\u2019instant pr\u00e9sent, sans oser construire quelque chose de plus solide et affronter ce que l\u2019avenir r\u00e9serve<\/em>\u00a0\u00bb explique Claude Martin, sexologue, avant d\u2019ajouter\u00a0: \u00ab\u00a0<em>Un ph\u00e9nom\u00e8ne que je constate de plus en plus souvent dans mes consultations. Avec une tranche d\u2019\u00e2ge qui concerne davantage les quadrag\u00e9naires jusqu\u2019aux quinquag\u00e9naires<\/em>. <em>Avec l\u2019hesidating, la peur qui peut exister au moment de s\u2019engager, s\u2019est exacerb\u00e9e davantage. Comme une forme d\u2019\u00e9p\u00e9e de Damocl\u00e8s pr\u00e9sente en permanence<\/em>.\u00a0\u00bb<\/p>\n<h2><strong>Comment surmonter cette crainte de l\u2019avenir\u00a0?<\/strong><\/h2>\n<p>L\u2019h\u00e9sidating expliqu\u00e9, comment sortir de ce cercle vicieux de l\u2019h\u00e9sitation engendr\u00e9e par la peur\u00a0? Quelles sont les solutions \u00e0 rechercher pour d\u00e9passer cette sensation toxique\u00a0? \u00ab\u00a0<em>Premi\u00e8re r\u00e9action \u00e0 avoir<\/em>, souligne Claude Martin, c\u2019est de <em>tenter de calmer son angoisse face \u00e0 l\u2019avenir. De cesser de tout voir en noir. Oui, la situation actuelle est difficile, et le Covid a mis \u00e0 mal notre assurance. Mais ne serait-il pas plus facile de surmonter nos craintes et nos probl\u00e8mes avec quelqu\u2019un pour nous accompagner\u00a0? Une question \u00e0 se poser pour les c\u00e9libataires qui h\u00e9sitent \u00e0 franchir le pas d\u2019une relation pr\u00e9vue id\u00e9alement pour durer<\/em>.\u00a0<em>L\u2019h\u00e9sitation \u00e0 franchir le pas peut aussi \u00eatre vue de fa\u00e7on positive. Elle prouve que l\u2019on r\u00e9fl\u00e9chit pour trouver le partenaire id\u00e9al, geste tout \u00e0 fait normal et sain<\/em>. <em>Seulement, un jour, il faut bien penser \u00e0 se lancer. Et surmonter sa peur face \u00e0 l\u2019avenir que l\u2019on imagine risqu\u00e9<\/em>. <em>Mais toute la vie est un risque, \u00e0 accepter pour avancer<\/em>. \u00bb<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p><span class=\"span-reading-time rt-reading-time\" style=\"display: block;\"><span class=\"rt-label rt-prefix\">Reading Time: <\/span> <span class=\"rt-time\"> 2<\/span> <span class=\"rt-label rt-postfix\">minutes<\/span><\/span>Qui aurait cru que le Covid allait bouleverser autant notre [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":18,"featured_media":54880,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_lmt_disableupdate":"no","_lmt_disable":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[1105],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-54878","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-couple"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v26.3 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>L\u2019hesidating, quand l\u2019avenir inqui\u00e8te les c\u00e9libataires - Fifty &amp; Me MAGAZINE<\/title>\n<meta name=\"description\" content=\"Beaucoup de facteurs font r\u00e9fl\u00e9chir les c\u00e9libataires face \u00e0 leur avenir sentimental. 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