{"id":60948,"date":"2023-10-11T20:36:21","date_gmt":"2023-10-11T18:36:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.fiftyandmemagazine.be\/fr\/?p=60948"},"modified":"2023-10-11T20:36:21","modified_gmt":"2023-10-11T18:36:21","slug":"delusionship-quand-lillusion-sinvite-en-amour","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.fiftyandmemagazine.be\/fr\/bien-etre\/couple\/delusionship-quand-lillusion-sinvite-en-amour","title":{"rendered":"Delusionship, quand l\u2019illusion s\u2019invite en amour"},"content":{"rendered":"<span class=\"span-reading-time rt-reading-time\" style=\"display: block;\"><span class=\"rt-label rt-prefix\">Reading Time: <\/span> <span class=\"rt-time\"> 2<\/span> <span class=\"rt-label rt-postfix\">minutes<\/span><\/span><p>\u00ab Les histoires d\u2019amour finissent mal, en g\u00e9n\u00e9ral \u00bb chantaient les Rita Mitsouko dans <em>Les Histoires d\u2019A<\/em>. Une assertion discutable mais plut\u00f4t juste quant au <strong>delusionship<\/strong>. Une tendance amoureuse dont il est beaucoup question sur les r\u00e9seaux sociaux et bas\u00e9e sur un d\u00e9lire amoureux sans fondement r\u00e9el, un pur fantasme.<\/p>\n<h2>\nLe delusionship, de quoi parle-t-on\u00a0?<\/h2>\n<p>Derri\u00e8re ce n\u00e9ologisme de delusionship se profile un comportement de la personne c\u00e9libataire en qu\u00eate d\u2019une relation amoureuse id\u00e9ale. Contraction de \u00ab\u00a0delusion\u00a0\u00bb (d\u00e9lire) et \u00ab\u00a0relationship\u00a0\u00bb (relation), ce concept peut se voir comme un film romantique que l\u2019on se fait dans sa t\u00eate quand un homme ou une femme nous pla\u00eet. \u00ab La femme concern\u00e9e se voit d\u00e9j\u00e0 en couple, install\u00e9e et heureuse avec un.e partenaire id\u00e9alis\u00e9.e. Alors que rien de concret n\u2019a encore \u00e9t\u00e9 v\u00e9cu dans cette relation v\u00e9cue \u00e0 sens unique. Si ce n\u2019est, peut-\u00eatre, un regard ou quelques mots \u00e9chang\u00e9s. La personne en proie au delusionship se construit une histoire d\u2019amour r\u00eav\u00e9e, id\u00e9alis\u00e9e. Mais cette relation se r\u00e9v\u00e8le uniquement c\u00e9r\u00e9brale \u00bb, explique Marie-Claire Thomas, sexologue.<\/p>\n<h2>\nPourquoi se m\u00e9fier ?<\/h2>\n<p>\u00ab Tout le danger r\u00e9side dans l\u2019illusion entretenue par la vision romantique que l\u2019on peut avoir d\u2019une relation amoureuse. Nourrie par les s\u00e9ries TV ou le cin\u00e9ma, la personne concern\u00e9e <a href=\"https:\/\/www.fiftyandmemagazine.be\/fr\/bien-etre\/sexo\/messieurs-fantasmer-est-bon-pour-votre-sexualite\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">fantasme<\/a> son d\u00e9sir. Et voit en la personne qui fait battre son c\u0153ur un.e partenaire de vie avec qui construire une relation durable \u00bb, explique Marie-Claire Thomas. Quels sont les risques les plus probables de sombrer dans le delusionship ? \u00ab Le principal r\u00e9side dans le glissement rapide dans l\u2019imaginaire et la perte de contact avec la r\u00e9alit\u00e9. Sur la base d\u2019un sourire, d\u2019un regard mal interpr\u00e9t\u00e9s, il peut \u00eatre facile de se projeter dans une relation future. Et qui n\u2019a pourtant pas l\u2019once d\u2019un d\u00e9but de commencement dans l\u2019esprit de la personne id\u00e9alis\u00e9e \u00bb, souligne Marie-Claire Thomas. Le delusionship peut vite s\u2019av\u00e9rer toxique si le d\u00e9lire amoureux que l\u2019on se construit prend le pas sur la r\u00e9alit\u00e9. Pourquoi ? Tout simplement parce que cette relation imagin\u00e9e n\u2019est pr\u00e9sente que dans l\u2019esprit d\u2019un.e seul.e partenaire. Avec une conclusion, logique, celle de la d\u00e9sillusion, in\u00e9vitable. Et qui peut agir sur la confiance en soi. Avec, \u00e9galement, un effet d\u00e9l\u00e9t\u00e8re sur le futur de ses relations amoureuses. \u00ab R\u00eaver et imaginer un amour id\u00e9al n\u2019a rien de r\u00e9pr\u00e9hensible en soi, c\u2019est certain. Mais il convient de revenir les pieds sur terre pour \u00e9viter de rester sur cette id\u00e9alisation qui restera, la plupart du temps, sans lendemain \u00bb, explique Marie-Claire Thomas.\u2028 Au final, fantasmer une relation possible peut apporter du plaisir mais ne peut faire fi de l\u2019importance de la raison gard\u00e9e. \u00ab L\u2019avis d\u2019un proche ou d\u2019un.e ami.e peut aider \u00e0 reprendre ses esprits et se rappeler que ce delusionship ne doit rester qu\u2019un fantasme heureux. \u00c0 moins d\u2019oser faire le premier pas et de franchir, peut-\u00eatre, une \u00e9tape avec la personne pr\u00e9sente dans sa ligne de mire. Une fa\u00e7on de refermer une porte. Et s\u2019\u00e9viter des remords, oui, mais tout en acceptant le rejet comme r\u00e9ponse possible \u00bb, conclut Marie-Claire Thomas.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><em>Photo Shutterstock.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p><span class=\"span-reading-time rt-reading-time\" style=\"display: block;\"><span class=\"rt-label rt-prefix\">Reading Time: <\/span> <span class=\"rt-time\"> 2<\/span> <span class=\"rt-label rt-postfix\">minutes<\/span><\/span>\u00ab Les histoires d\u2019amour finissent mal, en g\u00e9n\u00e9ral \u00bb chantaient [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":11,"featured_media":60949,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_lmt_disableupdate":"","_lmt_disable":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[1105],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-60948","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-couple"],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v26.3 - https:\/\/yoast.com\/wordpress\/plugins\/seo\/ -->\n<title>Delusionship, quand l\u2019illusion s\u2019invite en amour - Fifty &amp; 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